M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC
Coast Road, Rhyl, LL18 3PL
07551 529 386
Sex is an important part of your intimate relationship, and can be one of the most difficult things to discuss. Often a problem with sex can indicate a problem with the relationship. Alternatively relationship problems can take their toll on your sex life.
Counselling about intimacy helps uncover individual and couple ideas about sex and where they originated, feelings and attitudes about sex, the impact of early realtionaships or trauma as well as individual ideas about sexuality.
Sex will get challenged in long term relationships. Pregnancy, terminations and miscarriages can all affect sex. Becoming parents may change sexual feelings.
Fertility struggles may also have an impact on the fun of sex.
Sex may change over time, or with the impact of illness or surgery. Menopause for women and erectile difficulties for men can change sex for the couple in a long term loving relationship.
How you feel about your body may affect your sex life.
Counselling can uncover myths about sex and gender roles and help a couple share these meanings with each other.
It can help you build a better sex life, by having realistic expectations helping you think about making time for intimacy and creating the right conditions. It can help a couple talk about what they want and share their ideas about sex from beginning to end: from desire (what turns you on) to arousal to having sex to orgasm to afterwards.
Sexual counselling is different to sex therapy which tends to be for Specific sexual problems:
The British Association of Sexual & Relationship Counselling www.basrt.org.uk lists sex therapists who can help with specific sexual problems e.g. loss or absence of desire, ejaculation difficulties (premature or delayed), erectile problems, vaginismus (penetration is difficult or impossible), orgasmic difficulties, painful sex etc.
Sexual Adddictions: Eoin Stephens www.addictivebehaviours.com provides counselling and information on sexual addictions.
Source Sarah Litivinoff, The Relate Guide to Sex in Loving Relationships