M.Sc. B.A. Relate Cert C.C.
Registered Counsellor BACP & UKRC
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By retirement life stage, you may well have built up a lot of resilience and overcome many hurdles over perhaps many years. You may have come through several other life stages: Marriage / Children / Work / Bereavement etc.
Stopping work, even a planned stopping, may raise a lot of similar feelings as loss or work by redundancy.
Your sense of purpose can disappear with your work role, which you may have had for decades.
You may be spending more time at home or with your partner than you ever have before and this can introduce new stresses and strains to the relationship.
If you have developed outside interests or hobbies these may help buffer the loss left by work ending. You may each have had different expectations of what happens now and the word "retirement" may have different meanings to each partner.
Roles may be rebalanced, and decisions about how to fill time may be needed.
Conversations about how each partner sees the future can be helpful.
Counselling can accommodate some of these conversations.
Source Litvinoff, The Relate Guide to Better Relationships